Marriage and Couples Therapy

What Is Discussed in Couples Sessions?

The aim of a couples session is not to decide who is right. It is to make visible the pattern that brings two people back to the same argument and to look for ways to manage disagreement. In this article I describe what is discussed in the first session, how speaking time is shared and how the process is framed.

Psychological Counselling

How Does Counselling Work, Step by Step?

The sentence I hear most before a first session is: I don’t know where to start. You don’t need to. In this article I explain step by step how the first conversation goes, how the working framework is set up, how session frequency is decided and what confidentiality means.

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What Is Systemic Family Counselling For?

The systemic approach sees a person within the web of relationships they live in, not alone. It reads a family not as a sum of individuals but as a whole whose members affect each other. In this article I explain the basic idea, when it helps and how a family session works in practice, with examples.

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How Does a Family Recover Its Routine After a Difficult Event?

An accident, loss, illness or sudden change shakes a family’s routine; everyone reacts differently, and that difference often creates a second tension. In this article I look at why different reactions are normal, ways to keep talking and when professional support can help.

parent-child relationships

If Talking to Your Child Feels Like Hitting a Wall

If every conversation with your child turns into a negotiation, the problem is often not what you say but the moment you say it. In this article I talk about active listening, how to protect the relationship while setting boundaries and making sense of the distance that comes with adolescence.

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How Do Busy Periods Affect Your Relationship?

In busy times, relationships are usually the first to suffer: patience wears thin, conversations get shorter and time together shrinks. In this article I share how pressure seeps into relationships and practical things couples can try so they don’t lose each other.

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What Is a Family, Really?

A family is not just people sharing a home; it is a system where feelings, roles and rules are built together. In this article I explain how a family works as a system, how roles harden over time and when that system needs to loosen up.